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♞♞博马♞♞波波教你如何修心养性
# i% C2 r' ?. \0 v" T7 h+ u1 O 修心:使心灵纯洁
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# |; @. b8 s' p. }# ^; j% w 养性:使本性不受损害。通过自我反省体察,使身心达到完美的境界
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5 z; R! k: F9 y" e L- P 怎样做到修心养性呢?: \% s5 R- j( q
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不要老是惦念明天的事,也不要总是懊悔昨天发生的事,而把精神集中在今天要干什么上。因为遗憾、悔恨、内疚和难过并不能改变过去,只会使当前的工作难以进行下去。
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我们对远方发生的事无能为力,想也没有用;杞人忧天,徒劳无益;惶惶不安,对于事情毫无帮助。记住自己就是生活在此处此地,而不是遥远的其他地方。
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很多心理上的纠纷和障碍,往往是因为自己没有实际根据的“想当然”所造成的。如果你向领导或同事打招呼,他们没反应,你可能怀疑他们对自己有意见。其实,也许他们心事重重、情绪不安,没有留神你罢了。因此,不必毫无意义地胡乱猜想推测。
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! W1 X7 ^, [; Y5 L3 t4. 暂停思考,多去感受
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很多人整天所想的就是怎样做好工作,怎样考出好成绩,怎样搞好和领导、同事的关系等等,因而往往容易忽视或者没有心思去观赏美景,聆听悦耳的音乐等等。格式塔疗法强调作为思考基础的“感受”,比起思考本身更为重要。没有感受就无从思考,感受可以调整、丰富你的思考。6 a/ k! y @5 a Z/ p
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愉快和不愉快是相对的,也是可以相互转化的。因此,人们要有接受不愉快情绪的思想准备。如果一个人成年累月,总是“愉快”、“兴奋”,那反而是不正常现象.3 ^+ {% S" l8 S5 @! }
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% T% }% W! Q6 y" b5 \3 _不要说什么,我若是某某人我就一定会成功。应该从自己的起点做起,充分发挥自己的潜能。不必怨天尤人;要“从我做起,从现在做起”,竭尽全力地发挥自己的才能,做好我能够做的事情。
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人们往往容易逃避责任。比如,考试成绩不好,会把失败原因归罪为自己的家庭环绕不好,学校不好;工作不好,会推诿说领导不力,条件太差等。把自己的过错、失败都推到客观原因上。“格式塔疗法”的一项重要原则,就是要求自己做事自己承担责任。- U" |' r7 t M9 v0 b
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8. 正确地自我估计
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把自己摆在准确的位置上。每个人在社会中,都占据着一个特定的位置,所以你就得按照这个特定位置的要求,去履行你的权利和义务,你如果不按照社会一致公认和大家都共同遵守的这个规范去做,那你就会受到社会和他人对你的谴责和反对。
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修心养性,就是让人心不致动荡不安,达到陶冶情操,平衡心态,事事想得通,顺其自然规律,积极适应环境,把握好自己的情绪,做到控制好自己心情,不生不切实际的妄念。这样人体心情处在心平气和状态下,生理功能平和有序,达到了养生保健,心理平衡,心态良好,这种状态就有利于身心健康。- P5 U, o: a2 i; Z4 B4 Y
3 j, e' t( s' j. m& X" k) M2 t在此,波波特此与大家分享修心养性之道,不仅在人际生活中,事业中,而且在进行投注的过程中,也是起到决定性的作用的,人的性格决定以后是否成功,性格不易更改,但是后期的培养却可以改变以后的道路,波波衷心希望大家在日常生活中也能修心养性,找回自己,展现出最好的自己!
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